From the cesspit known as Digital Spy, I give you ilovenicnacs, who not only thinks that adoptive parents shouldn't be regarded at all by the children they've raised, this individual, who "works with children" is showing us why so many children are failed by the system today - it's down to cruel jerks like this woman.
She says:-
Secondly, few children are born "evil." And Dennis isn't evil. In fact, last year, he was a pretty nice child. The actor may have been annoying, but he was shown as a child who was reasonably well-behaved. But last year, he had a home (Jack's flat), his own space, and a social unit which included two parents - a mother and a father figure.
The child has known virtually no structure or stability, probably most of his life. That isn't his fault, that's the fault of the mother; but then, the mother hasn't had very much emotional or psychological support either. Dennis has no grandparents, no aunts and uncles, no cousins, no siblings. He was a posthumous child.
In one year, he's been shimmied between a bed-and-breakfast establishment, he's had one father figure walk out on him, literally when he was preparing to marry Dennis's mother and overnight, he lost another father figure, with whom he'd bonded, and he doesn't know why. He's angry, he's confused and frustrated, but he only has his mother with whom he can articulate his fears, and as he's only seven, he can't actually tell her that he wants to settle down and he needs a little more of her attention.
Quite often, when young children act out in social circumstances, they're seeking attention for some reason. It could even be inferred that Dennis wants to see his mother punished for her behaviour as well. Children crave stability, and Dennis has none. They crave structure and he has none.
Consider this: Take Carol out of the Jackson-Butcher equation and those kids are just as bad. Bianca cannot even put food on the table, and there was a time she and her children were sleeping in a bus shelter.
Consider this: Whitney, herself, has an attitude problem, and she has form for approaching a child's parents away from the educational environment and discussing her perception of a child's problems in the public domain. (Anyone remember her approach to what she thought was Amy's behavioural problem when she was only a trainee, with her supervisor pointedly warning her not to get involved?) Roxy actually made a justifiably official complaint and Whitney was about to be discharged until Jack threw his weight about and she was reinstated.
Consider this: You don't ever ever tell a parent that their child is "poisonous", and you certainly don't say that within earshot of the child. You don't intimidate a child outside the school environment and you don't barge in, shouting the odds. Yes, educational staff are only human, and there are kids they may not like, but you cannot show preference. Besides, Whitney assisting at a school where her younger siblings are attending is unprofessional anyway.
Has ilovenicnacs, so quick to write off children for the social scrapheap, ever heard of a conflict of interest?
Children thrive on stability and structure, and Dennis has been short on those in his short life. He has no family at all, other than his mother, and she's excessively emotionally dependent on him. As for Sharon, parenting is a skill which is learned (or not learned) by the way in which someone is parented. She has no living family and no extended family on hand with emotional/psychological support or anyone who can attempt to make her see where she's not setting up sufficient parameters in which to deal with her child's needs.
Another mother in potential danger of doing almost the exact same thing in the future with her child is Janine. Watch this space.
The truth is that there is no ideal mother on the Square, Ava the Magic Negro included, who are qualified to judge Sharon's inadequacies or to deem Dennis evil without recognising that this is a troubled child acting out in an effort to obtain attention to his particular home plight. He can't articulate to his mother, he can't get her attention, and the adults in positions of authority to whom he's making himself known - obnoxiously, but for a reason - are all failing him, by reacting negatively to his pleas and, thus, reinforcing the idea in his young mind that he really is bad.
That's tragic.
Bianca has defended her children's vandalism against Zainab's property - even laughed in Zainab's face. Tanya repeatedly undermined any attempt to discipline her children, even defending Lauren's blatant breaking of the law on two occasions. Phil Mitchell was willing to see an innocent man imprisoned for a murder he didn't commit, in order to protect his own son.
There are far worse parents than Sharon on the Square and far worse children than Dennis. They all have issues - again, just look at Janine and Phil MItchell to see the inherited residual issues instilled by Frank Butcher and Eric Mitchell in their grown children's lives.
But then, I suppose, ilovenicnacs would just have written off a seven year-old Janine (whom I remember as a character) or a seven year-old Phil Mitchell as "just plain nasty."
With people like this sorry woman in the educational field, no wonder so many children are fucked up in school as well as at home.
She says:-
The thing is, many of these posts are taking Dennys side (whether think so or not) by blaming Whitney, and that his behaviour towards her was because she bullied him in the shop and was rude and unprofessional.First of all, Dennis is a child. He's seven years-old. Surprisingly, the law would deem him too young to know the consequences of his actions if he did commit any sort of crime.
But do those pinning his behaviour on Whitney's think that Denny spilt the ink on dots papers because of dots behaviour? or did Denny pour paint on Morgan's card and bully him because of Morgan's behaviour? Or ripping Whitney's card up because of Whitney's behaviour, or that big long list of bad things he had done at school read out by Ava was because of the teachers and other children's behaviour? Or breaking dots window after stealing a catapult then blaming it on Dexter because of Dexters behaviour?
The point I'm making is that however some people like to see him (as a misunderstood little baby with issues), the fact remains that most of his behaviour is not because of what others have done but because he is a spiteful little boy who likes to hurt people and get them into trouble..
Yes, Whitney should have handled it better, but at the end of the day Denny is the bad one in this, regardless of the reasons for his behaviour, why are people blaming Whitney for not cleaning his arm while totally overlooking the fact that he lied through his teeth to get her into trouble and doesn't give a shite if she loses her job, and stood by while Sharon threatened to kill her, and seems to enjoy her pain, Whitney is the victim in this NOT Denny, he didn't have to lie, he could have owned up to the truth, but he prefers to lie and lie again to get his "revenge", on Whitney because she gave him warning that she wouldn't take his shite!,
I actually work with children Dennys age and believe me, some of the most horrid, spiteful, nasty little bullies I have worked with come from comfortable loving homes with no ",issues", they are just plain nasty, end of.
Secondly, few children are born "evil." And Dennis isn't evil. In fact, last year, he was a pretty nice child. The actor may have been annoying, but he was shown as a child who was reasonably well-behaved. But last year, he had a home (Jack's flat), his own space, and a social unit which included two parents - a mother and a father figure.
The child has known virtually no structure or stability, probably most of his life. That isn't his fault, that's the fault of the mother; but then, the mother hasn't had very much emotional or psychological support either. Dennis has no grandparents, no aunts and uncles, no cousins, no siblings. He was a posthumous child.
In one year, he's been shimmied between a bed-and-breakfast establishment, he's had one father figure walk out on him, literally when he was preparing to marry Dennis's mother and overnight, he lost another father figure, with whom he'd bonded, and he doesn't know why. He's angry, he's confused and frustrated, but he only has his mother with whom he can articulate his fears, and as he's only seven, he can't actually tell her that he wants to settle down and he needs a little more of her attention.
Quite often, when young children act out in social circumstances, they're seeking attention for some reason. It could even be inferred that Dennis wants to see his mother punished for her behaviour as well. Children crave stability, and Dennis has none. They crave structure and he has none.
Consider this: Take Carol out of the Jackson-Butcher equation and those kids are just as bad. Bianca cannot even put food on the table, and there was a time she and her children were sleeping in a bus shelter.
Consider this: Whitney, herself, has an attitude problem, and she has form for approaching a child's parents away from the educational environment and discussing her perception of a child's problems in the public domain. (Anyone remember her approach to what she thought was Amy's behavioural problem when she was only a trainee, with her supervisor pointedly warning her not to get involved?) Roxy actually made a justifiably official complaint and Whitney was about to be discharged until Jack threw his weight about and she was reinstated.
Consider this: You don't ever ever tell a parent that their child is "poisonous", and you certainly don't say that within earshot of the child. You don't intimidate a child outside the school environment and you don't barge in, shouting the odds. Yes, educational staff are only human, and there are kids they may not like, but you cannot show preference. Besides, Whitney assisting at a school where her younger siblings are attending is unprofessional anyway.
Has ilovenicnacs, so quick to write off children for the social scrapheap, ever heard of a conflict of interest?
Children thrive on stability and structure, and Dennis has been short on those in his short life. He has no family at all, other than his mother, and she's excessively emotionally dependent on him. As for Sharon, parenting is a skill which is learned (or not learned) by the way in which someone is parented. She has no living family and no extended family on hand with emotional/psychological support or anyone who can attempt to make her see where she's not setting up sufficient parameters in which to deal with her child's needs.
Another mother in potential danger of doing almost the exact same thing in the future with her child is Janine. Watch this space.
The truth is that there is no ideal mother on the Square, Ava the Magic Negro included, who are qualified to judge Sharon's inadequacies or to deem Dennis evil without recognising that this is a troubled child acting out in an effort to obtain attention to his particular home plight. He can't articulate to his mother, he can't get her attention, and the adults in positions of authority to whom he's making himself known - obnoxiously, but for a reason - are all failing him, by reacting negatively to his pleas and, thus, reinforcing the idea in his young mind that he really is bad.
That's tragic.
Bianca has defended her children's vandalism against Zainab's property - even laughed in Zainab's face. Tanya repeatedly undermined any attempt to discipline her children, even defending Lauren's blatant breaking of the law on two occasions. Phil Mitchell was willing to see an innocent man imprisoned for a murder he didn't commit, in order to protect his own son.
There are far worse parents than Sharon on the Square and far worse children than Dennis. They all have issues - again, just look at Janine and Phil MItchell to see the inherited residual issues instilled by Frank Butcher and Eric Mitchell in their grown children's lives.
But then, I suppose, ilovenicnacs would just have written off a seven year-old Janine (whom I remember as a character) or a seven year-old Phil Mitchell as "just plain nasty."
With people like this sorry woman in the educational field, no wonder so many children are fucked up in school as well as at home.
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