It's obvious that some of the idiots defending Ronnie on Digital Spy don't understand why Broken Arrow (who is not I, I hasten to add) has said that Ronnie didn't look after James properly.
Having had a few kids, myself, let me explain.
First of all, newborn anythings - puppies, kittens, lambs, elephants - are born without their body's heating mechanism intact at first. This is why pups, kittens etc nestle next to their mums and it's why, in hospital, newborns are given incubated beds and wear heating caps to keep their body temperatures up. Coming from the womb to the outside world is a shock to the system and it takes a few days to acclimate.
Secondly, it's rare that hospitals allow first-time mothers home within a day of giving birth. Please don't throw that shit at me about Princess Diana or Kate Middleton. This is my point: Diana went home to a bevy or nursemaids and nannies. Middleton went to her mother's house. The point is that, in both cases, the new mother would have had a strong network of physical and emotional support. In case you don't realise it, giving birth is pretty hard work, and the first inclination, after the first feed, is to sleep. Labour isn't called "labour" for nothing.
Hospitals are concerned, especially with first-time mums - and that's essentially what Ronnie was, despite Danielle - that they have good support at home for the first few days or weeks: a dad on paternity leave or family close by to be on hand to help with the baby so the new mother can rest, because that's what she needs as well.
Jack was away when James was born. Ronnie returned to the flat with Roxy, who offered to cancel her New Year's arrangements with Christian and stay with her sister. Ronnie refused. Glenda had made herself scarce. When the Brannings visited later in the day, Carol offered her help, and you couldn't have asked for better help than Carol, who's had four babies. Again, Ronnie refused.
Almost immediately she came home, she was seen parading the baby in his pram around the Square. This is a one day-old infant, who should have been wrapped warmly in his bed in his heated home. Remember his bodily heat mechanism hasn't kicked in yet. And his mother is squiring him about Walford on a cold December day.
As for the falling asleep in another room, that was unforgiveable. A newborn would have needed a couple of feeds and nappy changes during that afternoon, and most mothers make extra certain their newborns are in the same room with them all of the time. Ronnie was also tired from giving birth. No one's forbidding her rest time, but there should have been another person watching over and checking on James from time to time, to see if he were sleeping, needed changing, needed a feed, was breathing. Instead, Ronnie went to sleep in the afternoon in the lounge of the flat and woke up near midnight. The heat had gone off, because she shivered as she woke.
Of course, no one can explain cot death, but you have to question what would have happened if someone like Carol or Roxy had made regular checks on the child whilst Ronnie slept, waking her for a feed or even discovering his apnia. Ronnie was too caught up in the idea of having a child to replace the one she "lost" than to actually think about the heavy work involved in dealing with a child.
Having had a few kids, myself, let me explain.
First of all, newborn anythings - puppies, kittens, lambs, elephants - are born without their body's heating mechanism intact at first. This is why pups, kittens etc nestle next to their mums and it's why, in hospital, newborns are given incubated beds and wear heating caps to keep their body temperatures up. Coming from the womb to the outside world is a shock to the system and it takes a few days to acclimate.
Secondly, it's rare that hospitals allow first-time mothers home within a day of giving birth. Please don't throw that shit at me about Princess Diana or Kate Middleton. This is my point: Diana went home to a bevy or nursemaids and nannies. Middleton went to her mother's house. The point is that, in both cases, the new mother would have had a strong network of physical and emotional support. In case you don't realise it, giving birth is pretty hard work, and the first inclination, after the first feed, is to sleep. Labour isn't called "labour" for nothing.
Hospitals are concerned, especially with first-time mums - and that's essentially what Ronnie was, despite Danielle - that they have good support at home for the first few days or weeks: a dad on paternity leave or family close by to be on hand to help with the baby so the new mother can rest, because that's what she needs as well.
Jack was away when James was born. Ronnie returned to the flat with Roxy, who offered to cancel her New Year's arrangements with Christian and stay with her sister. Ronnie refused. Glenda had made herself scarce. When the Brannings visited later in the day, Carol offered her help, and you couldn't have asked for better help than Carol, who's had four babies. Again, Ronnie refused.
Almost immediately she came home, she was seen parading the baby in his pram around the Square. This is a one day-old infant, who should have been wrapped warmly in his bed in his heated home. Remember his bodily heat mechanism hasn't kicked in yet. And his mother is squiring him about Walford on a cold December day.
As for the falling asleep in another room, that was unforgiveable. A newborn would have needed a couple of feeds and nappy changes during that afternoon, and most mothers make extra certain their newborns are in the same room with them all of the time. Ronnie was also tired from giving birth. No one's forbidding her rest time, but there should have been another person watching over and checking on James from time to time, to see if he were sleeping, needed changing, needed a feed, was breathing. Instead, Ronnie went to sleep in the afternoon in the lounge of the flat and woke up near midnight. The heat had gone off, because she shivered as she woke.
Of course, no one can explain cot death, but you have to question what would have happened if someone like Carol or Roxy had made regular checks on the child whilst Ronnie slept, waking her for a feed or even discovering his apnia. Ronnie was too caught up in the idea of having a child to replace the one she "lost" than to actually think about the heavy work involved in dealing with a child.
You are using dozens of accounts on DS! its becoming more and more obvious. The exact same Sharon/Ronnie points are being made word for word by the same few users over and over and the exact same points are also being made here, again, word for word by you.
ReplyDeleteYou've basically just outed yourself as a major troll with deep issues. If you need more than one account on a web forum you have deep issues. You are digging yourself into a massive hole
I bet you daren't post this comment as it will make people realise which accounts on DS do actually belong to you.
You were saying, Biffo? How are things in bonny Scotland? Don't you think your insulin dose needs adjusting?
DeleteDon't call everyone who disagreed with Broken Arrow idiots. They fully explained their view point and what they were referring to.
ReplyDeleteNobody said she was in the right for sleeping in another room, they merely refuted that Ronnie was to blame for the cot death. As you say, cot death isn't very easily explained with causes but out right claiming the mother was to blame is incorrect.
Especially as this is a fictional show where the programme would have hinted a bit more at that possibility had it been the intended message.